Deaf Parents, Hearing Child

By: Levi Traxler


My wife and I are Deaf, and we use American Sign Language to communicate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We rely on a lot of visual information, such as when I flicker the lights on and off to get my wife’s attention. We try to make our home as deaf-friendly as possible; for example, we prefer an “open concept”, for ease of communication, and we have a big window by our front door. Our lives essentially rely on making everything accessible for us. 

When we found out we were expecting a baby, due in May 2020, we were so happy! What an exciting time for us! But suddenly, Covid-19 became a worldwide issue and everything changed. For example, limits were placed on the number of people allowed in medical settings (in order to reduce potential exposure to the virus), and we had difficulty getting an interpreter for our hospital visits. We finally did get an interpreter for the delivery, but we then found out that we’d need to stay at the hospital for a few days and the interpreter wasn’t permitted to stay there the whole time. We understand the logistical challenges of hiring interpreters but it was tough trying to communicate with nurses when they were wearing masks. Fortunately, we still had a relatively smooth experience bringing our child into this world. 

After nine months of waiting, we were thrilled to finally meet our healthy new baby. When we were finally able to bring our child home, we realized there are a lot of different challenges for us as Deaf parents with a hearing child. Here are just a few of the things we’ve experienced so far:

  1. We need an alarm system to notify us when the baby is crying. This is especially important when we are sleeping or in another room away from the baby. 
  2. We use a video monitor to check on the baby once in a while when the baby is napping. It helps give us a peace of mind being able to check on the baby without having to go inside the room.
  3. Using a big mirror on one side of the room allows us to check on our baby’s face and see if the baby is crying or having a good time. Sometimes if we look at the baby from behind, we would otherwise assume the baby is happy when in reality the baby is crying! The mirror helps give us more visual information.
  4. Loud noises that we as parents are clueless to, like the vacuum machine whirring and sirens, are NOT pleasant to the baby! One time I took our baby out for a walk and there was a fire truck with the siren on racing down the street. I thought this would be a great opportunity for the baby to look at the fire truck as it went flying by us. Unfortunately when the fire truck got near us, the baby started crying and climbed into my arms. It took me a second to realize that the sirens are really, really loud! 
  5. Burping our baby after feeding can be tricky. We can feel the burps, but not always, so sometimes we aren’t sure if the baby has even burped yet! Same goes for a lot of bodily functions such as farting, vomiting, and sneezing. 
  6. We don’t exactly know how loud we are so we have to be extra careful with doing anything while in the same room while our baby is napping. I remember taking a minute for each step to make sure I wasn’t making enough noise for the baby to wake up! 

Despite these interesting challenges we face as Deaf parents, we’ve also had some really cool moments with the baby, such as:

  1. The baby responds to sound so if I’m trying to get my wife’s attention when she’s playing with the child, I can just make some random loud noises. The baby will look for me right away and my wife notices this and then looks at me too. It works every time! This is going to be a great addition to our household. 
  2. We were able to give our child a sign name. We love it when our family or friends ask what the child’s sign name is because we feel like it gave our child their own identity. 
  3. Our child really enjoys watching our ASL stories and also enjoys listening to sounds from other sources (family members, toys, books, etc.). This is a great way to raise a bilingual child!
  4. Just like every other parent out there, we absolutely love watching our child grow up! Our child is now six months old and it feels so different compared to the newborn stage, so we’re realizing that we need to savor every moment we have with our child.

We know that there will be additional challenges down the road but we are ready and excited. Raising a hearing child as Deaf parents presents a wonderful opportunity to grow together as a family, learning from each other along the way!

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2021 AGM & Parent Connect Evening “Ask Me Anything”

We’ll begin with a brief 30 minute AGM, where we will share what BC Hands & Voices has accomplished over the past year.
Then we’ll dive into our “Ask Me Anything” Session – Hosted by your BC H&V Board of Parents and Deaf/Hard of Hearing Adults. Join us from your favourite spot at home, bring your questions or just observe. All are welcome!
ASL Interpreters will be provided.
Please RSVP to by Saturday February 27th, 2021 to receive the link.

Download our flyer HERE

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Parent Connect Coffee Night- ‘Bedtime Poetry-Creating a Harmonious Bedtime’

Join BC Hands & Voices, Guide By Your Side parents and Deaf/Hard of Hearing Guides for a panel discussion about all things bedtime! They will share  tips for creating a pleasant bedtime experience for both YOU and your deaf/hard of hearing child. What do Deaf/Hard of Hearing adults say their parents did to help them feel secure and sleep well when they were children? What can we take away from the things they wished had gone differently? Always lots to discuss on this topic! Bring your questions and ideas! Special guests include Monique Les, Tara Dyck and Teresa Kazemir. ASL Interpreters and CART captioning are provided.
WHEN: Thursday January 21st 2021 7:00pm-8:30pm
CONTACT/INFO: please RSVP to to receive the zoom link.

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BC Hands & Voices presents “Finding Unity in our Diversity: Family stories of raising young children who are deaf and hard of hearing.”


Connecting with others who have shared life experiences is one of the joys of being human.  In our ever-changing world, those connections aren’t always present when we need them most.  And so we are excited to announce the publication of our first book; a collection of stories written by parents raising children who are deaf and hard of hearing as well as adults sharing their experiences growing up deaf and hard of hearing.  The authors are open, honest and engaging, providing meaningful glimpses into their lives and those of their families.  


We invite you to order your copy of this book today in the hope that it will provide you with optimism, insight and practical wisdom.

Price & Shipping choices

  • $24.95CAD + $6 shipping & handling within Canada, or $24.95CAD + $10 shipping & handling to the US
  • FAMILIES- Become a paid member of BC Hands & Voices for $20.00CAD and receive a complimentary copy of our book (please note this option is only available to Canadian Residents and is only available while quantities last)
  • PROFESSIONALS- Become a paid member of BC Hands & Voices for $30.00CAD and receive a complimentary copy of our book (please note this option is only available to Canadian Residents and is only available while quantities last)
  • AGENCIES- Become a paid member of BC Hands & Voices for $50.00CAD and receive a complimentary copy of our book (please note this option is only available for Canadian addresses and is only available while quantities last)

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Paying it Forward: Passing on Some “Golden Nuggets” 

By Teresa Kazemir

When I look back on how we raised our three kids, there are of course many things I now think we might have done differently. For example, it was a good idea to hide vegetables in their pancakes, but why did I start them off with sweetened peanut butter?

I think we were more intentional in our parenting than many of our friends because our first child, Jesse, was born hard of hearing. We were concerned about him feeling different, not being included, or even being bullied, and so we sought advice from others.  We consulted parenting books, early interventionists and other parents of children who were deaf and hard of hearing. We also took advantage of opportunities to learn from older children and adults who were themselves deaf or hard of hearing.  Figuring out how to parent our children was an active process that evolved constantly over the years. We certainly weren’t perfect parents, but there were several pieces of advice that we received from others that turned out to be “golden nuggets,” worthy of passing on to the next generation of parents. 

  1. Provide rich accessible communication from infancy

For our son this meant a combination of sign language and spoken language right from the beginning. We talked and signed to him all the time, about everything that was happening around him, and he soaked it all up! This strong foundation in language definitely helped him later in school, and it also led to good, open communication within our family, as we talked about anything and everything.  

  1. Turn off the TV and background music

It was clear even as a young baby that Jesse loved to listen as well as watch, so one of the biggest changes we had to make early on was to become more thoughtful about when we played background music and had the TV on. We understood that even though we loved music, it competed with the sound of our voices when we talked to our baby. We found ways to make it work – we would listen to music with Jesse, but if it was time to read a book, we would turn off the music. We also found that signing naturally filled in those gaps in auditory access in situations where we couldn’t control the level of background noise.

2. Encourage your child to self–advocate from a young age

This started by talking openly and positively about Jesse’s hearing equipment when showing others or answering their questions. We encouraged him to contribute whatever he could to these conversations.  Initially we asked him to show people his hearing aid. Later we asked him to tell others what he was wearing – “It’s my hearing aid.” Over time he added more and more information, until gradually he took over, and we just supplemented with anything he might have missed. To this day Jesse is very comfortable talking about his ears, hearing aids, access, etc.

3. Embrace early literacy activities

When Jesse was a baby, there were some pretty scary articles circulating about deaf and hard of hearing children graduating from high school with very low reading levels. This motivated us to be pro-active in terms of literacy, and think about what we could do to encourage a love of books from a young age. I hadn’t really stopped to think about how many opportunities there are to promote early literacy with young children before Jesse was born, but we discovered there are lots of ways to do this. We started looking at books together when he was an infant, and incorporated this into our daily routines. We got a library card and borrowed books every week. We wrote his name on every piece of toddler artwork.  It was a real eye opener when 2 ½ year old Jesse, while out in the car with my husband, pointed at a sign with an amazed expression and said “Letters are everywhere!!!” That led to making our own signs when we played store, writing words together on the grocery list, and writing letters to grandparents. We realized that Jesse was right – letters are everywhere!

4. Make it OK to express sadness or frustration 

While Jesse has said that his hearing difference created more positive interactions and opportunities than negative while growing up, that doesn’t mean there weren’t times when he was frustrated or sad. We were advised that it was good to acknowledge his feelings, and let him know it was OK to feel that way. I wasn’t always quite sure how to do that, when my natural instinct is to reassure and look at the bright side of everything, but we muddled through. Honestly, any time he was sad, I would go back to that piece of advice, take a deep breath, push aside my natural response, and instead just sit with those feelings for a bit. Luckily he always seemed to come around after a few minutes of chatting, and I could relax back into my comfort zone. 

5. Prioritize opportunities to meet other families with kids who are DHH

 We heard this message loud and clear from our early intervention providers, so we made an effort to take advantage of family events and groups whenever we could. As Jesse grew older, this settled at a couple of family events each year (which were also great for our other two children), in addition to a couple of fun activities at school where his Teacher of the Deaf and Hard of Hearing would bring together a few kids within the school district. Even though Jesse never really bonded with any one particular friend who was deaf or hard of hearing, these experiences provided something important for him. I remember him saying when he was about 12, after attending a family conference, that it was always so nice to get together with that group because all the other kids “just get it.” He said it was really great not to have to explain anything. I think those events recharged him, and then he’d be happy to go back to his daily life once again. As parents, we highly valued those opportunities to connect with other parents. There seemed to be an instant bond – it’s amazing how fast you can connect with another parent in a similar situation, and get right to the real, heart-felt conversations.  Most of the best support and practical advice we’ve received has come from other parents. 

Parenting is much more complicated than I realized before having children. It can be terrifying, humbling, amazing and rewarding – sometimes all at the same time!  All we can do as parents is try our best, and then pay it forward to others by sharing what worked. These are a few “golden nuggets” that we picked up along the way – I’m sure others can add to the list!

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Parent Connect Coffee Night- ‘Learning from DHH Adults’

Join us with special guests Tara Dyck & Bowen Tang, Deaf/Hard of Hearing (DHH) Guides with the Hands and Voices Guide By Your Side Program. Tara & Bowen will share some of their experiences growing up as well as:
-tips on how to develop self confidence in your child from an early age
-what it’s like using various technologies in everyday life
-their experiences travelling and growing up learning a variety of signed & spoken languages
-how they have developed meaningful friendships and family relationships

ASL interpreters and CART captioning will be provided.

Grab a beverage and join us via Zoom from your favourite spot at home!

Please RSVP to to receive the link.


Download our flyer here: Learning from DHH Adults 12.7.2020

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Uncovering a Silver-Lining During Covid-19

By Maria Pucci

Having kids in this day and age can feel like a rollercoaster ride. As parents we want to make sure that we keep them in one piece! When you are a parent of more than one child, something as simple as keeping them alive seems so hard at times. Now we have this pandemic thrown into the mix and it has definitely been a struggle for most, including my family. 

I am a mother of three wonderful children. My oldest, Luca, is almost 9 years old and identifies as hard of hearing. He has been wearing hearing aids since he was 2 months old and will not go a moment throughout the day without wearing them. His younger brother and sister, Enzo and Ayva, have typical hearing.

Earlier this year, at the beginning of the pandemic, my concern was just to make sure my family stayed healthy and that we made the right choices to stay safe. Since we live in a multi-generational home and my husband has not been able to work from home, we have to be a little more careful. Other than staying home, limiting contacts and cleaning all the time, the pandemic didn’t seem so bad until we had to pay a visit to the audiologist.

The day that we went to Luca’s appointment and his fantastic audiologist started talking to him, Luca turned to me with a puzzled look on his face and said “Mom, I have no idea what she is saying”. And that’s when it happened, the realization that this pandemic had more of an effect on Luca than it did anyone else in the family. Here are some questions that I decided to ask him regarding how this pandemic is affecting him. 

  1. What is the hardest part for you when you’re out and about?

The hardest part is I have to stay 6 feet away and I can’t touch others. When people are 6 feet away I can’t read their lips – they are too far away from me.

  1. How do you feel about masks?

I don’t like them. They are hard for me to wear because when I take them off, my hearing aids always get stuck on them and pull them out of my ears. When other people are wearing masks, I can’t hear them. It sounds like people’s voices are blurring out because of the mask. People sound like they are talking with a door in their face. The worst part about people wearing a mask is I can’t see their lips when they talk.

  1. As we decided to continue online schooling, do you miss your friends? 

I miss my friends. I don’t get to play with them in real life. We make online playdates so we can still play together.

  1. How do you like online schooling?

It’s okay because I can see my teacher’s lips. On the computer, she doesn’t have to wear a mask which makes it easier for me to hear her.

  1. Can you hear the teacher better online or in a classroom?

I can hear the teacher better online because my hearing aids are blue-toothed to my laptop. At school, even with the microphone, it’s hard to hear the teacher with all the noise through the hallways during class.

  1. Can you understand what the teacher says?

Yes, most of the time. I only can’t hear her when the computer cuts out, but that doesn’t happen all the time.

  1. What can we do to help make things a little more accessible for you right now?

You and dad can make sure that when someone is talking to me, I actually understood what was said to me.

  1. Our family has learned a lot of ASL. Would it be easier if more people knew ASL?

YES! It would really help so that I could always know what people are saying to me.

  1. What is your biggest wish?

I wish that this will all be over soon so I can hug my friends and people don’t have to wear masks anymore.

  1. What advice do you have for parents of deaf and hard of hearing kids during this pandemic?

To the parents I would say, make sure the kids actually understand what is going on in a conversation with people wearing masks. To the kids, stay 6 feet away from people and don’t be scared to ask your parents what is being said when you can’t hear something. That’s what parents are there for.

Now that our family has a safety plan to remain healthy during the pandemic, I can refocus on ensuring Luca’s communication access. While the last few months have been challenging for him, there have been positives as well. I’m really happy to be seeing Luca develop his confidence and self-advocacy skills. That is definitely a silver-lining!

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Fall Harvest Storytime Zoom

Saturday November 14th 2:00pm-3:00pm
Storytime in English & ASL – Connect with other families – Meet two of our Deaf/Hard of Hearing Guides! 
Have your little one show us a fall craft they have made. We like some of the ideas listed here:
Please RSVP to to receive the zoom link. ASL interpreter and captioning will be provided.

Download flyer here: BCHV Fall Harvest Storytime

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Parent Connect Coffee Night ‘Microtia/Atresia’ 2020

Parent Connect Coffee Night on Zoom- Microtia/Atresia
WHO: BC Hands & Voices & Guide By Your Side
WHAT: Join us for a special parent night about Microtia/Atresia hosted by Jesse Kazemir, an Engineer and musician with bilateral microtia/atresia who wears BAHS (Bone Anchored Hearing Systems), and Catherine Kalchbrenner, a Parent Guide and mom of a child with right-sided microtia/atresia. Grab a beverage and join us from your favourite spot at home! Ask questions & share experiences with other parents. ASL Interpreter will be available if requested by Oct. 26th.
WHEN: Thursday October 29th, 2020 7:00pm-8:30pm
Download our flyer here: Microtia Coffee Night 10.29

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Zoom Parent Connect Evening- September 2020

Connect with other families and share ideas about how to support our children. Whether you are looking for emotional support, a place to vent or share the joys…join us! Grab a beverage and join from your favourite spot at home! ASL Interpreter will be available if requested by Sept. 18th 2020

Tuesday June 22nd 2020 7:00pm-8:00pm
Please RSVP to to receive the Zoom link for the event.


Please download the flyer here: Parent Connect Evening 9.22.2020

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